Originally Posted by pdjafari
Pursued this girl for 1 year, she blew me off, played w/ my mind, flirted with other guys in front of me etc. Finally, after a year she gave in and dated me only b/c she said I obviously really liked her, wasn't a typical guy trying to get some. Girl has never had a bf, never even kissed etc.
So after 3-4 years we went everywhere together, traveled the world...I really wanted to prove to her how much I loved her. In 2008 alone, I dropped 15k on travels for the two of us, again just wanted to give her everything, show her the world. Spent mad cash on her, even at one point parted out the 335 to stop spending $$ on mods and save for a house etc. Our families met (not just immediate families, but distant) started to make wedding plans etc etc.
Engaged in February with 45 days before our wedding date, b/c of some small issues btw our families she talks to her parents and they along with her decide it wont work out (Religious issues and she said I was stubborn). Bare in mind with ~ 1 month remaining to get hitched, I had already spent 12k on a ring, 10k on a venue, 5k on a caterer, 2500 on a deposit for a photographer. I had even ordered the wedding invitations which are sitting under my bed.
So I'm short roughly 30k, lose the girl I thought I would marry (and still love). Fcuk the money, but I never saw this coming, nor did anybody else. I got the ring back, but cant return it...The deposits I left are all non refundable, already tried speaking to an attorney. A month after she'd still call me, saying it was too hard, she cant handle it etc etc. Then she started speaking to my ex...and after that she never called again.
I can't say I hate women, but I'll be damned if I ever trust one ever again. I already had trust issues w/ girls b4 I dated her, and I actually trusted her with my life, so imagine trying to trust another female after all this. Im 29 BTW, so I've had a experience, not a 19 yr old.
All of my friends, and even her friends/cousins say she will regret it some day, just a matter of time. Her parents apparently believe she will marry a tall, handsome, wealthy, religious guy who comes from a good family.
This is all fairly recent (3-4 months) so Im still a bit fcuked up, but I think its a pretty bad way to get dumped... I'm no Bill Gates, but I have a good career and do well
Worst part about it, for 3 years she just said 'I want true love, nothing else, no money nothing'. After it was over, she said 'Love is just not enough...'
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