She wants me to drive the 335i while she drives my daily driver

Crimson92 · 09-28-2021, 08:36 PM

This is going to sound harsh.

It's 335i man, use the thing.

MsGoGoMoto · 09-28-2021, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Gregrobin

GFs car was recently rear ended. It's in the body/collision shop for repairs. It's going to take 10 days longer to repair than originally estimated. She's in a rental car, other drivers insurance is paying, but she has to pay $20 a day for the Collision Damage Waiver since she does not have Comp/Collision coverage on her car. I convinced her to remove it about a year ago since her car is only worth $5000+-.

She asked if she could return the rental car to save $200 ($20 x 10 days) and use my daily driver, and I drive the 335i as a daily driver. Anxiety rushed over me. The 335i sits in the garage, does not see wet roads, was never meant to be a daily driver. I even recently removed all of the surface rust from the brakes/calipers/rotors. More anxiety rushes over me...

I told her I would pay the $200. She said I am being ridiculous and selfish. The conversation got a little more heated...that was Saturday.

What would you do?

Get a new girlfriend

Dino GT · 09-28-2021, 09:26 PM

All this turmoil guys and she only wants to drive his beater

. Drive your car while you still can. It`s just a fucking car!!! If you have a stroke tomorrow, or a heart attack and end up in a wheel chair you are going to look back one day and say, I wish I drove my car more often . I`m your age (55) and I did have a heart attack last June, so you might think that`s why I`m talking like this. No, I just let my wife (not let, what`s mine is hers) and my friends drive my cars that might not be able to afford to buy one like mine or they are just to cheap to buy one. Anyways, I have 6 cars, my wife drives any car that she wants (only 3 that she drives, because she can`t drive manual). Trust me, I baby my cars, when she curbs a wheel or hits something I lose my shit, but it goes away after a day or so, it`s just a car

. This tread got

nicely. I learned a lot about people`s personalities and tempers from this tread

I usually don`t get involved in these conversations, because you just hear so much weird stuff that makes your head shake. It looks like you guys might have bigger problems if a car is such a big deal. Good luck.

Gregrobin · 09-28-2021, 09:33 PM

Six pages and not one photo of a hot chick or cool car, some passionate folks here :-)

Nachbar · 09-28-2021, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Dino GT

All this turmoil guys and she only wants to drive his beater

. Drive your car while you still can. It`s just a fucking car!!! If you have a stroke tomorrow, or a heart attack and end up in a wheel chair you are going to look back one day and say, I wish I drove my car more often . I`m your age (55) and I did have a heart attack last June, so you might think that`s why I`m talking like this. No, I just let my wife (not let, what`s mine is hers) and my friends drive my cars that might not be able to afford to buy one like mine or they are just to cheap to buy one. Anyways, I have 6 cars, my wife drives any car that she wants (only 3 that she drives, because she can`t drive manual). Trust me, I baby my cars, when she curbs a wheel or hits something I lose my shit, but it goes away after a day or so, it`s just a car

. This tread got

nicely. I learned a lot about people`s personalities and tempers from this tread

I usually don`t get involved in these conversations, because you just hear so much weird stuff that makes your head shake. It looks like you guys might have bigger problems if a car is such a big deal. Good luck.

You should see my wifes 2y/o 520d Touring, so you would agree with me 😁

Tambohamilton · 09-29-2021, 12:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Gregrobin

After all that her car was ready today and she picked it up. She won't let me pay the extra $80 for the rental collision damage waiver.

Cool! I bet you're now left feeling bewildered that there was ever an issue in the first place

sygazelle · 09-29-2021, 02:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Gregrobin

After all that her car was ready today and she picked it up. She won't let me pay the extra $80 for the rental collision damage waiver.

Please share this thread with her. Her reaction to your comments and the expert free advice you have received will really let her know much we all care.

Share it with her.....and let us know how that goes.

Gregrobin · 09-29-2021, 07:22 AM

The initial emotion is always secondary to something deeper. We talked about it last night, and it was not "the car" or how I feel about the car. It was a deeper rooted emotion, something that's been bothering her.

This thread actually helped me, how much do I owe? I figure psychologists get what, $150/hr? ;-)

Alfisti · 09-29-2021, 07:59 AM

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Originally Posted by rebekahb

Welcome to OT where everyone knows what's best but you

Alfisti do you stay because of the kids?

In a word yes, it's bad enough with me here, if i am missing half the time she will raise weak men.

Alfisti · 09-29-2021, 08:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gregrobin

The initial emotion is always secondary to something deeper. We talked about it last night, and it was not "the car" or how I feel about the car. It was a deeper rooted emotion, something that's been bothering her.

This thread actually helped me, how much do I owe? I figure psychologists get what, $150/hr? ;-)

We gotta know more.

cmyx6go · 09-29-2021, 08:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Alfisti

We gotta know more.

MPOWER5266 · 09-29-2021, 08:44 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gregrobin

After all that her car was ready today and she picked it up. She won't let me pay the extra $80 for the rental collision damage waiver.

Cool, you should still drive your car.

MKSixer · 09-29-2021, 09:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gregrobin

The initial emotion is always secondary to something deeper. We talked about it last night, and it was not "the car" or how I feel about the car. It was a deeper rooted emotion, something that's been bothering her.

This thread actually helped me, how much do I owe? I figure psychologists get what, $150/hr? ;-)

You can't leave that there. What was/is the deeper rooted emotion?

cmyx6go · 09-29-2021, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by MKSixer

You can't leave that there. What was/is the deeper rooted emotion?

Poor guy - he didn't realize we were pulling him down the rabbit hole.

Hi MK

Pauldunlop13 · 09-29-2021, 09:48 AM

Glad it worked out

I still don’t think you should be afraid of rain touching your car

I could understand salt or sand from the winter. But not rain.

MKSixer · 09-29-2021, 09:49 AM

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Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Poor guy - he didn't realize we were pulling him down the rabbit hole.

Hi MK

Hi!

How have you been? How is the new ride?

cmyx6go · 09-29-2021, 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by MKSixer

Hi!

How have you been? How is the new ride?

I'm well, thanks.

I feel like I'm playing a freakin video game.

I'm too old for all this tech nonsense.

You've been quiet so I guess life is good.

MKSixer · 09-29-2021, 10:10 AM

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Originally Posted by cmyx6go

I'm well, thanks.

I feel like I'm playing a freakin video game.

I'm too old for all this tech nonsense.

Glad you're well!

I know on the video game stuff!! My buddy just got he Mercedes 450 GL or somesuch and the display and functionality are all too much!! Some of it is cool but the rest is superfluous.

TiMSport · 09-29-2021, 10:34 AM

^^^ Yeah but at least they're still ICE vehicles, right?

Gregrobin · 09-29-2021, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Pauldunlop13

Glad it worked out

I still don’t think you should be afraid of rain touching your car

I could understand salt or sand from the winter. But not rain.

It's strange I know, I was the same way with my previous 2001 330ci and 2011 335i. It was pouring down rain when the buyer showed up to pick up the 2011 335i. I looked at them and said "It's raining, this car has not be in rain since I bought it". I did not even want to back it out of the garage.

Quote:

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Poor guy - he didn't realize we were pulling him down the rabbit hole.

Hi MK

Quote:

Originally Posted by MKSixer

You can't leave that there. What was/is the deeper rooted emotion?

Ha, as much as I want to share it's personal to us (but not unique to relationships in general), and would be disrespectful to her. The chances of her ever seeing this post are slim to none, and then connecting to us even less, but one never knows. Plus, I've been beat up enough on this one already :-)

shoei · 09-29-2021, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by MKSixer

Quote:

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

I'm well, thanks.

I feel like I'm playing a freakin video game.

I'm too old for all this tech nonsense.

Glad you're well!

I know on the video game stuff!! My buddy just got he Mercedes 450 GL or somesuch and the display and functionality are all too much!! Some of it is cool but the rest is superfluous.

So adorable when our grandparents need help with tech.

cmyx6go · 09-29-2021, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by shoei

So adorable when our grandparents need help with tech.

Me

shoei

LOL

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Dino GT Enlisted Member 34937 Rep 45 Posts Drives: BMW Join Date: Dec 2020 Location: Eastern iTrader: (0)	All this turmoil guys and she only wants to drive his beater . Drive your car while you still can. It`s just a fucking car!!! If you have a stroke tomorrow, or a heart attack and end up in a wheel chair you are going to look back one day and say, I wish I drove my car more often . I`m your age (55) and I did have a heart attack last June, so you might think that`s why I`m talking like this. No, I just let my wife (not let, what`s mine is hers) and my friends drive my cars that might not be able to afford to buy one like mine or they are just to cheap to buy one. Anyways, I have 6 cars, my wife drives any car that she wants (only 3 that she drives, because she can`t drive manual). Trust me, I baby my cars, when she curbs a wheel or hits something I lose my shit, but it goes away after a day or so, it`s just a car . This tread got nicely. I learned a lot about people`s personalities and tempers from this tread I usually don`t get involved in these conversations, because you just hear so much weird stuff that makes your head shake. It looks like you guys might have bigger problems if a car is such a big deal. Good luck.
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